EMDR FAQs
Will I have to relive traumatic experiences in detail?
No. EMDR does not require you to recount or relive experiences in graphic detail. You are not required to tell the full story or describe everything that happened. The work is guided and contained, and we focus on what feels manageable. You remain present and aware throughout the process, and we move at a pace that supports safety and stability.
Is EMDR intense or overwhelming?
EMDR can bring up emotions, but it should not feel overwhelming or flooding. Preparation and pacing are central to how I practice EMDR. We build resources first and move forward gradually, checking in regularly. If something feels too intense, we slow down or pause. You are always in control of the pace.
Can EMDR be done online?
Yes. Research supports that EMDR delivered online is as effective as in-person treatment. We use bilateral stimulation methods that translate well to a virtual setting, and sessions are structured to support grounding and orientation throughout. For many clients, working from a familiar environment can support the sense of safety the work requires.
What if I don’t remember everything clearly?
That’s completely okay. EMDR does not require clear or complete memories. Sometimes the body holds emotional or sensory experiences even when details are vague. EMDR works with what’s available — thoughts, emotions, sensations, or images — without needing a full narrative.
Do I have to use eye movements?
No. Bilateral stimulation can involve eye movements, tapping, or tones. We’ll choose the method that feels most comfortable and accessible for you, especially in an online therapy setting.
What if I’m afraid EMDR will make things worse?
EMDR is not rushed, forced, or done without preparation. If at any point it doesn’t feel supportive, we adjust or stop. EMDR is one tool within a broader therapeutic relationship, and it’s always used thoughtfully and with consent.
Do I have to use EMDR if I start therapy with you?
No. EMDR is always optional. Some clients choose to focus on talk therapy only, others integrate EMDR gradually, and some decide EMDR isn’t the right fit — all of those choices are respected. We decide together what feels most helpful for you.
How will we know if EMDR is right for me?
We’ll talk about your goals, your history, and your concerns. EMDR is introduced only if and when it feels appropriate. There’s no pressure to move faster than you’re ready for. If EMDR doesn’t feel like the right approach, we’ll consider other ways of working together.
What if I’m still unsure?
That’s okay. Curiosity and hesitation often exist side by side. If you’re interested in learning more, we can talk through your questions and decide together whether EMDR feels like a good next step.